Pallavi Aiyar

Pallavi Aiyar is a territorially polygamous correspondent, columnist, and author. She has reported from — and raised a family in — China, Belgium, Japan, Indonesia and Spain. She writes about the world with indiscriminate delight and a weakness for the surprising connections between people and places.

The art of war and peace, at home
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The art of war and peace, at home

After more than two decades of marriage and countless arguments, an unconventional lesson on how to disagree deeply, fight with passion, and still choose one another.
You can't argue a child into loving books
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You can't argue a child into loving books

Instead of fighting screens, a mother learned to wrap books in rituals her son would come to love and anticipate with joy.
Non-transactional kindness: What schools should teach in the age of AI
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Non-transactional kindness: What schools should teach in the age of AI

If AI can increasingly handle memory (delete recall) and even analysis, schools must ask a deeper question: what remains uniquely human?
Make way for the Al-Raj
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Make way for the Al-Raj

Corrupt, self-serving and increasingly despised — what if politicians were simply replaced by AI?
The need for generosity of listening
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The need for generosity of listening

We spend a lot of time learning how not to offend. A cross-cultural communication expert argues we should spend more time learning how not to be offended.
Your national dish is lying to you
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Your national dish is lying to you

From the croissant to ketchup, a tour of the surprising, border-crossing origin stories behind the dishes nations love to call their own — including one that traces back to Sumatra.
Boredom is the new luxury
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Boredom is the new luxury

As the distraction economy steals our ability to think and focus, the most radical thing we can do could be nothing at all.
Hindu epics in a Muslim majority nation
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Hindu epics in a Muslim majority nation

Nothing captures Indonesia's pluralism better than wayang kulit. This essay explains how the Ramayana and Mahabharata continue to shape the country’s society, politics, and everyday life.
The caste system of travel
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The caste system of travel

From embassy queues to airport holding rooms, a personal journey through passportism and the hidden privileges of global mobility.